7 Shifts That Helped Me Reduce Stress and Graduate at 40+ (Even When Life Was a Lot)

“I’m doing the best I can today.”

In January 2024, I returned to college after more than a decade away.

I was working full-time, helping my grown kids navigate life, and somehow decided to take four classes per semester. Four.

Who does this? Me. I’m someone who makes a decision and goes all in—even when it doesn’t make a bit of sense.

But burnout and disappointment? They come fast.

Thankfully, I found some tools along the way that helped me process my emotions, lower my stress, and finish strong — diploma in hand by December.

December 2024

So, if you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, I want to share seven real-life shifts that helped me beat stress and stay grounded — even when life was a lot.

1. Affirmations that ground me

I started speaking life over myself again. Even when I didn’t believe it, I’d say: “I’m doing the best I can today.” Those simple words reminded me that I didn’t have to be perfect — just present.

2. Almost daily walks after work

Even for 10 minutes, getting outside helped me release the day and return to my body. I didn’t overthink it. Just laced up my sneakers and went. Also, I had a built-in routine because I was walking a friend’s dog (Monday-Friday), so I still got moving even when I wasn’t in the mood. It became a quiet, consistent way to clear my head without needing motivation.

3. Better sleep through a nighttime reset

I upgraded my bedding and started a nighttime routine. A nighttime routine helped signal my body that it was time to wind down — no more late-night scrolling or jumping from one task to the next. I also started jotting down a few sentences in my journal before bed—nothing fancy — just a quick brain dump to release mental clutter and fall asleep faster.

4. Music as medicine

I created a calming playlist that felt like an exhale. Whether I was washing dishes or driving to class, those songs helped reset my nervous system. I also have a “feel good” playlist — upbeat tracks that instantly lift my mood. I can’t help but feel a little better after a few songs. It’s one of the fastest ways I know to shift my energy.

5. Saying no (without guilt)

It really is a complete sentence.

6. Unplugging for at least 20 minutes a day

Stepping away from my screen helped me reconnect with myself. Sometimes, that meant sitting on the balcony; other times, it meant folding laundry silently. Either way, it worked.

7. Decluttering one space at a time

Clearing off the kitchen counter or clearing out my emails gave me peace when life felt messy. It was a slight shift, but it reminded me I had some control.

Final Thoughts:

We don’t need a new life to feel better — just small steps honoring our place. Whether it’s a short walk, a good cry, or five minutes of deep breathing, it all counts. You deserve peace, too — not when everything is perfect, but right here, in the middle of your real life.

Thank you for being here. Leave your thoughts in the comment section below.